26-year-old sister refuses to give $20,000 of her inheritance to the oldest sibling to bankroll her exorbitant wedding, family feud ensues over their late father's will: ‘She said Dad would want me to ‘share’'

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  • AITA for refusing to lend my sister money for her wedding when my dad left me the bigger inheritance?
  • I (26F) lost my dad three years ago. He left behind a will where he divided his assets between me and my older sister (29F). The split
  • wasn't equal: I got more money, while she got the family house. The reasoning was that my dad knew I was still in school, had student
  • loans, and wasn't as financially stable, while my sister already had a decent job and a place to live.
  • My sister was upset back then but accepted it... or so I thought.
  • Fast forward to now, she's getting married. She and her fiancé want this huge, expensive wedding abroad. They've burned through
  • their savings, maxed out credit cards, and now she's short about $20k. She came to me asking if I could "help out" since I "got more from dad."
  • I told her no. I've been using my inheritance responsibly, paying off debts, saving for a down payment, and just trying to build a stable future. I said I'd contribute
  • something smaller, like helping with groceries or even part of the honeymoon, but I wasn't going to hand over tens of thousands for a one-day event.
  • She blew up. Said dad would want me to "share" and that I'm being selfish for prioritizing my "comfort" over her "once in a lifetime day." My mom jumped in,
  • telling me I was tearing the family apart and "choosing. money over bl d." Now half my family isn't speaking to me, and apparently, I'm "the reason her dream wedding is falling apart."
  • My fiancé says I did the right thing, but even he admits it looks bad when the family paints me as the "greedy sister hoarding dad's money."
  • So...AITA for refusing to give my sister part of my inheritance to fund her wedding?
  • SnappyJoy ⚫ NTA. Your dad divided things the way he did for a reason, he wanted to make sure you'd be okay.
  • You've used that money responsibly, and it's not your fault your sister burned through hers and wants to live beyond her means. A wedding is a luxury, not a necessity.
  • Glow Tugg You're not the greedy one here, your sister is for demanding $20k like it's owed to her. A wedding is one day, but your financial
  • stability is for the rest of your life. Offering smaller help like groceries or honeymoon support was already generous. She's just upset because you won't bankroll her bad decisions.
  • Stateof Mind70 ⚫ NTA. Sis can take a loan out against the house if she needs dad's $ so bad.
  • Flimsy-Call-3996 NTA. Tell your sister to give you part of the house! Your mom needs to keep her opinions to herself.

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